My guess is that this has been covered in another forum but I wanted to throw it out there;
So who among us has been the following situation: You are sitting at a friends or even a family's dinner table and everyone gets ready to say grace. Everyone bows their heads and or closes their eyes. What do you do? Do you close your eyes and or bow your head out of respect and think to yourself "omg this is such bs", or do you hold your atheist head up high with a kind of "suck-it" mentality I am not going to coddle you just because you expect me to, I'm an atheist dammit and proud of it!!!
Would love to hear your thoughts and stories!!
I am inspired by the stories below. Why should should I respect obvious BS?
Watch out the next time I do the family dinner and get asked to 'bow my head'
I bow my head and keep my eyes open. It is generally not worth the social hassle to be blatant in my non-compliance.
Depending on the social context (whether I have some control or authority, I am a guest, it is a public and formal occasion, etc.) I might ask that I add a non-sectarian vote of thanks for all the humans who acted to make the situation possible.
I just look around and watch everyone else - try to pick out who is sincere in their delusion, and who is just exercising social camouflage. Occasionally, I get lucky and hook someone who notices what I'm doing; they call me out on it and it's off to the races!!
Although many years ago, as a (very) junior officer in a Reserve artillery regiment, I was asked (trans "ordered"- Colonels do not "ask" baby lieutenants anything) to say grace at a Mess Dinner. Neglecting to engage my discretionary vocal circuits, I came out with "O Lord, make us not like the oatmeal, thick and sour, but like the corn flakes, ever crisp and ready to serve".
I was honoured to be a part of the subsequent closed-door session. Probably why I have been in the Navy these past thirty years <g>.
Well I'm off to my brother in laws to have Sunday "dinner" at 1 PM. I imagine he'll say grace and I'll bow my head in the little tradition. We've talked a few times about religion and I think he knows my stance. Sometimes I say amen, maybe today I won't.
My sister passed away a year ago and he seems to have gotten a little more religious since then. I suppose it's his coping mechanism, he's a stubborn guy and I'm very doubtful he'll ever change his views.