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Permalink Reply by Brandon on May 9, 2011 at 11:43am

My family has always prayed before any "gathering" type of meals. However, none of them actually attend church regularly (hell, they aren't even Easter/Christmas Christians). I used to be the one to pray at every get-together. When I left the delusion the arbitrary ritual was more or less passed down to my youngest cousin. He chants the familiar "god is good, god is great" prayer (and the shortest version I've heard, at that). I don't stand in great protest, but I more or less take the opportunity to watch them all bow their heads out of habit and see the "hurry-the-hell-up" expression most of them make. I would not doubt this will soon pass by the wayside. I look forward to the day when they realize the stupidity of going through the motions.

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Permalink Reply by Walter Maki on May 9, 2011 at 11:55am

Well yesterday my family went over to my wife's grandma's house for a Mother's Day lunch with a handful of other parts of my wifes family which made it a full house (now keep in mind that only my household along with a few others knows publicly about my atheism). When it came time my wife's uncle would say grace I was seated out of the way in the back corner behind a few others on the couch. So I just sat there and looked around at everyone else. It brought a smile my face to see one of my nieces still playing her video game without missing a beat.

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Permalink Reply by Robert Karp on May 9, 2011 at 12:02pm

Another example of the brilliance of the intelligence of the mind of a child.

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Permalink Reply by Walter Maki on May 9, 2011 at 12:18pm

I won't say anything outward to my nieces. But I will lead by silent example, if they ask me I will tell them. They are very intelligent so I don't think it will take them long to filter through the dogmatic BS. Aside from my unspoken ally I did feel a bit uneasy and was thinking what a crock of shit it is.

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Permalink Reply by Tori Blackthorne on May 9, 2011 at 12:19pm

I'm enjoying everyone's stories, I don't get around other non-believers much so it is nice to read about. :)

 

Personally, I don't end up in that situation often, but when I do I usually just sit quietly and wait for them to finish doing their thing. I don't bow my head, neither does my better half. It has been my experience that most of the time everyone else is too busy trying to blend in (or do it right) that no one notices that I am not!

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Permalink Reply by Donald S. Chase on May 9, 2011 at 12:47pm

You stand, eyes open, head erect and remain silent the same as if you were present at the singing of the National Anthem of another country. It's called non-participatory respect.

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Permalink Reply by Robert Karp on May 9, 2011 at 1:59pm

non-participatory respect

I like that! Thanks Donald.

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Permalink Reply by Walter Maki on May 9, 2011 at 2:04pm

Ditto

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Permalink Reply by Teresa Turner on May 9, 2011 at 2:17pm

In my family, they like to hold hands while saying grace.  I have made it clear that I dislike this, but they still touch me through the entire grace saying. I usually keep my head up but lower my eyes in case anyone looks up.

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Permalink Reply by Robert Karp on May 9, 2011 at 2:38pm

My ex-s family did this too. They are Quakers, the most benign of the Christians, and nobody said a word and when it was done, one person squeezed a hand and in went around the table and then we all said thank you. It was very secular and allowed people to be thankful for the meal in their own way. That's about as much as I can take when it comes to grace.

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Permalink Reply by Nate Bauder on May 9, 2011 at 4:53pm

Oh yes...I remember when I was put into this spot.. I just sit there with my head up, looking at everyone else with a sort of... "smug" look? I think "smug" might be too harsh a word but, yeah haha. Basically the latter of the two.

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Permalink Reply by NO RELIGION on May 9, 2011 at 5:07pm

"When in Rome,do like the Romans". I would respect a believer's traditions,as I would expect them to do mines.

Besides,it's just a mindless formality,it doesn't make me an less Atheist.

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