Little info: my entire family is Catholic.
Anyway, I have two uncles that have two baby girls close to the same age. One of them is having my baby cousin baptized in about two weeks. I'm not sure how I feel about going to a church again. Should I go, you guys?
I have another problem. My other uncle asked me if I wanted to be my baby cousin's godmother. I don't know what to do. I don't want to because I'm an Atheist! I also don't want to sound mean.
I don't know what to do about both of these situations. I'm 20 years old by the way.
Godmother is a woman who agrees to take responsibility for the child if the parents are dead. My son had godparents who are both atheists. If it's a Catholic ceremony there might be some religious conditions (crap), but you are the one who would raise them, so screw the church.
Thanks. I'll definitely take that into consideration.
If you are not ready to disclose your atheism you are in a jam. They will not understand why you declined. We atheists deal with this sort of thing all the time. I find it's usually best to be upfront-But not always !! It could depend on how independent you are.
Well both of my uncles actually do know that I am an Atheist! I still don't know why one of them would ask me to be a godmother...
I became a godfather before asking about religious implications. (Duh!) The family was religious, but I was not asked to participate religiously, so it all seemed to work out. Or should I say, nothing ever really came of it. I don't even recall if they knew I was atheist. Looking back now, I wish I had discussed it with them, to give them a chance to choose someone else.
Interesting. Thank you!
Personally, as more time in my life goes by, I think that relationships are more important than labels. If they trust and like you enough and vice versa to offer this kind of thing then I think the friendship trumps any kind of religious fantasy labels. Religious people can call me anything they feel like, just not late for dinner. ;) hahaha
Anyway, my point is that life is too short to worry about words or labels getting in the way of loving others and showing them love in any ways that you feel comfortable with. Honestly telling them your feelings or comfort levels with what they are asking of you, will strengthen the relationship if it is a healthy one in the first place.
I recommend that you enjoy the fantasy land world of believers sometimes, it can be funny or interesting for entertainment value. (some nice music or food sometimes too) No need to worry about their magic spells rubbing off on you. Those god-spells are nothing more than some silly human's imagination that lived a long time ago.
Humans are strange but they help make some goofy variety in life. Just be yourself and maybe flip off the crucified jesus artwork just for fun.(while no one is looking) :) hahaha
(some nice music or food sometimes too)
I have to disagree about this.
I always found churches kind of cheap in this regard. Where on earth do they manage to find such low quality crackers and grape juice? (Or wine in some cases.) They must have to search far and wide. And then, having found such low quality refreshments, they skimp on the portion size, too. What's up with that?
I'm remembering from the mormon perspective/background where they pile the food to the ceilings (for any occasion) and have tons of cake, ice cream etc. because they can't indulge in any other kinds of "pleasurable" foods or drinks etc.
So I guess I should have taken that into account before I said anything. In any case, it is usually free so that is not all bad. I did say "some" and "sometimes," as in not very often and only when related to non-religiously focused family type things, otherwise I avoid churches like the plague they most likely host especially if they are the anti-vaccine nutjobs.
I think one of your duties as a godparent goes beyond merely seeing that the kid is fed and sheltered and would involve raising them in the religion of their parents (after all, that's what they'd want, right?).