For a long time people that know me have been telling me they think I may suffer from depression and/or anxiety. So much so that I began to believe it. I am still somewhat open to the possibility, but my position on the matter is: so what? I'm not hurting anyone. I'm certainly not going to alter my body chemistry just because it doesn't match what is "normal". Where would evolution have gone if all species could change themselves back to "normal"?
Last night I read this article about shyness, introversion, and social anxiety. It confirmed many of my thoughts on the matter, and got me to research introversion more. Before, I had been aware of the general idea of introversion/extroversion (never studied psychology that much), but I did not know that it could be such a specific and pervasive behavioral trait. After much reading I found that on the introvert/extrovert scale, I'm about as introverted as you could possibly get.
Anyway, in the article the author references Winifred Gallagher: “The glory of the disposition that stops to consider stimuli rather than rushing to engage with them is its long association with intellectual and artistic achievement." It got me thinking about religion. Are introverts more likely to analyze the inconsistencies and problems with religion before (or even after) committing to one? How many atheists are introverts?
So, do you consider yourself more introverted than extroverted? A poll would be awesome, but I don't see an option to add one.
Apparently, it's "in vogue". ;)
I choose to dissent.
I used to be shy when I was a boy, but I overcompensated by becoming a loud, often obnoxious and drunken asshole.
Being an introvert was always something I really didn't know how to feel about, and I felt like it held me back from meaningful social interactions with people. I'm an easy to talk to person, but I just always felt like there was just some social gene I didn't have... until I read this http://jerrybrito.org/post/6114304704/top-ten-myths-about-introverts
It was a great article and really helped me feel better about myself, even if it is a bit general.
sorry to hear that , my father embarrassed the hell out of me as well. Every time I had to play piano for a school concert , my father would throw a hysterical fit in front of EVERYONE .... about how he can't stand crowds , how terrible I sounded on the piano , how he can't stand these sort of concerts ... he cussed out my long time mentor , a choir director at my high school ... cussed me out a few times in front of crowds that knew me. Oh my god , It was so awful. He would also tease me and make fun of me and ask me really stupid questions like 'are you gay , it's ok ... just never seen you with a girlfriend before'
(Maybe it's because I am too embarrassed to bring a female friend around you , ever think of that? is what I wanted to tell him)
I'm pretty lucky in that regard, though my mother is clearly histrionic.
My father shipped out for whaling when he was 15 and had been drunk in at least a dozen harbor cities in a dozen different countries by the time he was 20 - he never forgot how it was to be young. His harshest critizism of my frequent mistakes growing up were the stinging truisms "Told you so!", "You can believe in Church, in the real world you have to know", and the worst one was whenever I tried to explain my failures with sentences beginning with "I never thought XYZ could happen..." he would respond "You never thought - exactly. You never think."
Anyway, my parents managed to bring me up quite successfully, and the worst type of upbrining I can give my children is the one I received.