So my g/f and I recently got engaged, and are in the midst of wedding planning now.

 

We are going churchless for the ceremony, but to be honest, we are keeping the format. So doing away with all of the god nonsense, we still wanted to have her much younger siblings do a couple 'readings', but I'm having some trouble coming up with good ideas.

 

I'll take any kind of poetry or song lyrics, even some kind of short story or anecdote if its good enough.

 

Keep in mind - I need stuff about love and getting married, not stuff about being an atheist.

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We went to the St. Louis Ethical Society to get an officiant.  They were very respectful of the type of ceremony we wanted and it was a completely secular one.  We borrowed ideas from other weddings, but mostly did want we wanted to do.  We were married at a local country club that also hosted the reception immediately following (cause those 3 hour intervals suck if you are a guest).


We were given an opportunity to write our own vows or take a secular template and customize it as we wished. We liked it a lot because it focused on a lot of the things that we agree are valuable in a relationship.  


Ultimately, do what you want because it is your day.  We paid for our own wedding, so it was easy to accomplish this without anyone leveraging financing against us.  


And we had an atheistic wedding in the fact that god or religion had nothing to do with it.  Simple as that and exactly how I prefer it.


Good luck and congrats!

Can't get used to the terminology on here really, as I've said I'm not really used to there being something odd about not believing in god. My dad and his wife, and my sister and her husband, had non-church weddings. Non of them are religious and no one bothered to call them "atheist weddings", and no one thoguht twice about any of it.

The more I think about this stuff the more of a sort of culture shock it becomes I guess. As for your wedding I can't really help you, just choose something you're both into I suppose. And congratulations! :)

Lucky you!  I mean it!

 

I agree completely with your sentiment.  I only heard about one guest, by way of the grapevine, that complained that God wasn't mentioned during our ceremony.  Most of my family and friends did not care or care to complain that their religion wasn't being catered to during our wedding.

 

 

My wife and I had a secular wedding as well. No god at all! :) We hired an officiant, rented a place, wrote our own vows, and had a few readings as well. We did alter the format some (exchange rings at beginning, hand fasting, etc)...

 

Here's a some of what we used:

"a marriage makes two fractional lives a whole. It gives to two purposeless lives a work, and doubles the strength of each to perform it. It gives to two questioning natures a reason for living. It brings a new gladness to the sunshine, and a new fragrance to the flowers, and new beauty to the earth, and a new mystery to life." - Mark Twain

 

"Love. What a small word we use for an idea so immense and powerful. It has altered the flow of history, calmed monsters, kindled works of art, cheered the forlorn, turned tough guys to mush, consoled the enslaved, driven strong women mad, glorified the humble, fueled national scandals, bankrupted robber barons, and made mincemeat of kings. How can love's spaciousness be conveyed in the narrow confines of one syllable? Love is an ancient delirium, a desire older than civilization, with taproots spreading into deep and mysterious days. The heart is a living museum. In each of its galleries, no matter how narrow or dimly lit, preserved forever like wondrous diatoms, are our moments of loving, and being loved." -from A Natural History Of Love by Diane Ackerman

 

I do remember that we did have a list of nice poems/excerpts that we had found online though. There are plenty of options out there to make it personal to you, yet still remain beautiful.

 

Cheers!

Very Cool!!!

 

So my wife and I are very secular but did want to honor the traditions of our familes. So we peppered the whole ceremony with "traditions" from both the religions and cultures of our families. We got married under a Katuba for my Jewish parents and there was a part of Quaker silence and speaking for my wife's family.  We also did a Cherokee blanket ceremony, irish wrapping for my wife's side, and a zulu necklace ceremony for my family's African roots.  It was a very cool wedding. The person we had administering it was a secular person so it all felt totally non-religious. Make it your own. Very Very Cool. As far as things to say, I'm sorry i can't help you much aside from the Apache Wedding Prayer:

 

THE APACHE WEDDING PRAYER

NOW YOU WILL FEEL NO RAIN,
FOR EACH OF YOU WILL BE
SHELTER TO THE OTHER.

NOW YOU WILL FEEL NO COLD,
FOR EACH OF YOU WILL BE
WARMTH TO THE OTHER.

NOW THERE IS NO MORE LONLINESS,
FOR EACH OF YOU WILL BE
COMPANION TO THE OTHER.

NOW YOU ARE TWO BODIES,
BUT THERE IS ONLY ONE
LIFE BEFORE YOU.

GO NOW TO YOUR DWELLING PLACE,
TO ENTER INTO THE DAYS
OF YOUR TOGETHERNESS.

AND MAY YOUR DAYS
BE GOOD AND LONG
UPON THE EARTH.

That is beautiful!~
John Denver's Annie's Song
is a gorgeous wedding song:

You fill up my senses like a night in a forest,
Like the mountains in springtime,
Like a walk in the rain, like a storm in the desert,
Like a sleepy blue ocean.
You fill up my senses, come fill me again.

Come let me love you, let me give my life to you,
Let me drown in your laughter, let me die in your arms.
Let me lay down beside you, let me always be with you
Come let me love you, come love me again.

Let me give my life to you,
Come let me love you, come love me again.

You fill up my senses like a night in a forest,
Like the mountains in springtime,
Like a walk in the rain, like a storm in the desert,
Like a sleepy blue ocean.
You fill up my senses, come fill me again.

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