As a mother and Atheist ( for over 20 years) I've found the hardest aspect of being an Atheist and a parent - is finding community. Not just for myself - but for my children. Community and socialization are crucial in a child's development. I feel this in one of the most significant reasons there is less women in Atheism - because there is less family in Atheism. In meet-ups, they are predominately male - and usually at libraries.
Vague & pointless.
BTW Dan - I request you give evidence contrary to my position, using the above replies- which now yours is also taken into account. I'm not one that accepts drive by spamming.
That's a shiny dime. Well said.
I will post my blog on this issue - maybe that will shed some light on the the issue.
Here is my blog - I started a separate one from my usual writing, to address issues.
I involve my children in action- charitable events and etc- these are no replacement for consistent bond building, long term relationships. They will for now will have to suffice, until I find a community I can belong within ... I'm trying to build a group locally - again, to find people who can be consistent and involved.
Thank you for your positive response!
Believe me, I know the feeling. It's sort of an "Us Against the World!" type thing. We're both rather antisocial anyway, and we truly don't have any meetups or 'fellowship' in our area. It's the bible belt, if you're not a Christian you're seen as a second class citizen. The closest meetup is like 45 minutes away, and they never meet. *sigh*
I'll do what I have to do in order to make my child happy and I know my husband would do the same. I guess I'm just scared that we'll be rejected by people if they find out about our atheism.
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I think I've became more anti-social , which is another thing I'm combating... We tend to draw inwards. I once was very outgoing and involved in the community, meetings and etc.... As I broke away, I lost friends. My children were soon no longer invited to houses to spend the night, to have birthday parties and etc. I'm going through this now with Mi'a & Taylor. I have a few good friends who I connect with as much as I can - but I admit, I've became very defensive and protective as a result of people judging me or being bigots. I do whatever I can for both children - even expose myself to people I dislike me or have no respect for me - in order for my kids to have something - rather than nothing.
That's just the thing Thinks - It's not about me anymore. "It" has become about children ... Jeff and I primarily have been to ourselves. This ends up causing stagnation and no outlet for either of us - eventually I worry we'll start bickering at one another. I know Jeff is bored - I'm bored too . We go for exploration walks, night life stuff and etc - we need that interaction of friends to buffer the boredom. I'm not a depressed person- I enjoy communication with a varied circle of people. When I was younger - I was a little less caring or observant. Now I have 2 adult children who are Atheists and have had rather solitary lives as result. So, when I look at Mi'a and Tay- I don't want same for them . Teenage years were very rough with my daughter Tabitha. When she did manage to get accepted by a family- she clung. Same with boyfriends- who she hid us from and begged me not to say we were Atheists- even cried, horribly.
I too get snubbed... a lot. Jeff doesn't seem to be bothered by it too much ... He doesn't want to do birthday parties and play dates. I do ... i want our kids to have good memories of their childhood and have strong, solid friendships. I'm the one who tries and does do charity events, I run them if I can ... I do the writing, the artwork and etc. if they discover I'm Atheist, all 'hell' breaks out. This just recently happened on toy run.
I tell myself to be happy - I am happy. I just really miss being involved in activities, in socializing. I cringe when it's time for my kids birthdays ...
Oh gosh, I lost my best friend a year ago because I came out. I wrote a note saying "I'm an atheist and I'm happy." and she messaged me saying "Ohhh Caitlin you know I love you but I can't follow you down this path, I wish you would have asked me about God and Jesus" and promptly deleted me and blocked me.
I still cry over that. A 12 year friendship, down the drain. Augh.