If you don't want kids do everything in your power to NOT get pregnant.
For 14 years I begged docs to sterilize me, but noooooooooooooooooooooo, they were insistent I would eventually want children. So any moral judgement regarding my abortions (while making use of the pill, condoms, morning after pill) is SQUARELY on the patriarchal hypocritical medical establishment.
I agree with you there.. Still it is my uterus, and if I want to be fixed or want an IUD how many critters I have contributed to society should not have anything to do with it..
Its mine do what I tell you too.. Is my way of thinking about it..
I hate that you have gone through what you have gone through then you have all these pro life people arguing that its immoral..
Period point blank. Morality is just as oppressive as religion, unless you define a moral for your life and your life only..
I dont' think it is right that a doctor can tell you no about being fixed or having an IUD any more than I think it is right for some one to tell you what your morals should be.
I am very much so against both!
Morals are nothing more than opinions, we all have them and they all stink when we try and push them on to others!
You know what was a real surprise to me after I finally got my tubes cauterised? My promiscuity went down, a whole lot!!!
I spent months and years pondering on that and came to the conclusion that I'd been allowing myself to live in a zone of illusion, like:
-maybe... if I found the right guy
-maybe... if the world were not overpopulated
They were extremely small maybes, somewhere in the range of strong agnostics' assessment of god.
I also tended to date nice guys, guys oddly enough with good fatherly potential, whereas a good many women complain that they can't find a good man to become a father, which is why they ended up with jerk assholes... but why did I end up with the good guys?
Anyway, after the cauterisation, I truly stopped dating and/or fucking men who thought of children. Which means my sex life went way downhill! hehehe
So in the greater scheme of things, if my experience can be extrapolated, widespread sterilisation would not only reduce unwanted pregnancies, but might also reduce the incidence of STDs! (Not that I ever had any...)
I have heard that a lot of women's desire goes down hill after, I know a few who say it sky rocketed because they didn't have to worry about getting knocked up..
My mom is 50 going thorough menopause and still is very out spoken about how much she loves it knowing she doesn't have to worry about sex.. lol
Irregardless, before they go messing with abortion laws they need to fix the laws that limit women to be fixed if that is what they want.
I am not even fixed but since my IUD my desire has decreased.. Quite a bit actually, that might have to do with the kids that wear me out too.
I know many women that have wanted to have their tubes tied who were denied.. To me that should never happen.. If they ask for it they should get it..
well... to be truthful, my libido is intact... it's just my assessment of each potential partner which is much harsher :)
Quickly, quickly, fix that irregardless!
I agree with you Janelle. It isn't very fair that people want to scream and jump up and down with out educating themselves on why women might consider having an abortion to begin with..
My husband and I just did a ton of research on it.. Truth is they recover faster than we do, and it is not as serious a procedure for them as it is for us.. It is day surgery for them, it is a hospital stay for us.
Their recovery time is less than ours too.. To us it just makes more sense to do it that way..
They see the threat of pregnancy as a way of preventing people from having sex. Literally, I am not making this up. I had one Catholic woman actually say to me: "You've got to pay to play." She said this in reference to the possibility of pregnancy--she wasn't saying that she expected her husband to buy her dinner first.
Can you believe such insanity?