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Permalink Reply by Radu Andreiu on November 29, 2010 at 2:53pm

Rationally, I don't find any moral problem with abortion, not even when done because, how you so eloquently said, "oops I got preggo". Emotionally, on the other hand, abortions feel awful for me. Of course, certain cases might not arise those feelings, but most of them do. Even in rape victims. I keep thinking about the life that child never had the chance to have. Of course, possible future humans won't mind not existing, but they won't have the unique chance of living either. Anyway, I'm pro-choice, in the sense that, if that's what the society regards as the moral choice, or if that's what it
would help our civilization the most, there is no problem. Personally, I have no moral compass, except my feelings, like empathy, disgust and so on. I wouldn't, however, try to impose them on anyone, because I don't find any objective way of determining what is moral, or even what morality is. Maybe it's just a social construct arisen from the need to have order in civilizations, so that they can survive and even advance.

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Permalink Reply by wisp on November 29, 2010 at 3:53pm

I'm staunchly pro-choice, so long as the abortion is carried out early in the pregnancy, before foetal development has progressed too far. I think that safe, early-term abortion should be legal for any reason. However, I don't like the idea of using abortion in place of a birth control method, and I don't think it's a wise decision to have an abortion without thinking it through fully (weighing the consequences before an accidental pregnancy occurs is even better, as it gives a solid basis for a decision to be made).

If a woman doesn't want to get pregnant, she should take every reasonable precaution to prevent pregnancy. I'm all for reducing the need and/or desire for abortions by making reliable birth control and emergency contraception more affordable and readily available to women of all ages. But I do think that sometimes an abortion is the most responsible decision when thinking about the well-being of both the mother and the potential child, and I think the welfare of the already-independently-existing woman always trumps the well-being of a foetus.

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Permalink Reply by Joli on November 29, 2010 at 6:13pm

I agree with much of what you have said, especially "so long as the abortion is carried out early in the pregnancy" - early is much better than later. However, I don't think abortion should be legal for "any reason".

Thanks for responding wisp :)

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Permalink Reply by Joli on November 30, 2010 at 3:34pm

Late term abortion IMO is absoultley wrong. It is wrong because the child could be saved via medical technology. I will never change my opinion on that, ever. third trimester abortions are murder. Somewhere in the united states someone wants that baby even if the mother doesn't.

The moral difference is the fact that the baby can survive. Not to mention at that stage we are sure of the fact that the baby can feel pain and so on. this is part of the subject where I could get shouting mad and so I will end here.

Thank You Jean for replying to this discussion :)

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Permalink Reply by Joli on November 30, 2010 at 6:18pm

I would hope that the mother would think of the child in the way of her wanting the doctors to take every step they can to save the baby once it was born, not aborted.

I think the only true phrase here IS third trimester. Late tem can mean several different things to several different people. So the medical term here would be the best one to use.

I think it is tragic to lose life when it is not "natural". i do not condone what the extremist are doing.

I do not think what these third trimester abortion doctors are doing is by any means right. The child should always try to be born and saved, never aborted.

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Permalink Reply by Jordan Leigh on December 1, 2010 at 9:07pm

You seem to be under the impression that third trimester abortions are a result of the woman just postponing an elective (that is, non-medically necessary) abortion until the last minute.

In all reality, the vast majority of fetuses aborted in the third trimester are nonviable. They wouldn't survive any longer than a few days outside the womb (if they even made it to childbirth) and they may pose a serious threat to the woman. I'd imagine that many women who have third trimester abortions are incredibly distraught: they must have really wanted that baby to carry it for months, only to find out that either it wouldn't live or she wouldn't live (or neither would live). What a decision to have to go through.

Here are two links providing reasons for third trimester abortions:
http://sciencenotes.wordpress.com/2009/06/22/what-causes-third-trim...
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10426234

The most common reason for postponing abortion to the third trimester was to make extra-sure that the abortion is necessary. So which would you rather see: unnecessary second trimester abortions or necessary third trimester abortions? Until better screenings for fetal abnormalities are developed, these are the choices (if you want to keep the woman alive, of course. if you don't, there's always more options).

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Permalink Reply by Atheist Exile on December 1, 2010 at 9:48pm

Late term abortions are only legal in the U.S. for medical reasons. The 5% (from the study) that delayed their decision into the 3rd trimester also had medical reasons but couldn't or wouldn't decide earlier.

I, of course, have no problem with late term abortions for valid medical reasons.

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Permalink Reply by Joli on December 2, 2010 at 12:27am

I do not have a problem with abortions that are medically necessary.

Permalink Reply by Jennifer Ulean Breedlove on January 11, 2011 at 12:13pm

You know I had an abruption of the placenta at 17 weeks pregnant, and I told them I planned on carrying my pregnancy through unless as long as it was the baby at harm and not my self. I would deal with problems with the child.

However I had another child who needed a mother. If my daughter had been born and I died, I would have had 2 children who needed a mother, I would have left my whole family my husband, siblings, god children, all of the things and people that make my life have a connection to this world, to allow a child to be born? A child who didn't have a connection?

Yes Life is a very special and beautiful thing and I love both of my children with everything that I am, however let me tell ya something, My life is the one that has the connections here, and my life is just as beautiful as an unborn fetus, if it is going to kill me.

Yes I trust doctors, and at the point they tell me it will kill me is the point I let them take over and do what needs to be done so that I can be here for my family..

I was willing to do anything to save my daughter but if they ever said it is you are the baby, I would have said take the baby, my other child needs me.. IF you think that makes me selfish ask my husband and my mother, and my sister, and my son how they feel about that.. See I am not the only one who was making that decision. I am not the only one whos feelings and emotions had to be considered there.

That was the decision, and honestly Joli, I am glad that mothers who are put in that position even in the third trimester has the right to make that decision.  I don't like abortion either, however sometimes it is the only way that it keeps the one with an established life here.

My husband and my mother were very quick to point out to me that I was selfish for putting the unborn  baby first if I did over myself. Due to the fact that I would be leaving 2 kids behind. I am grateful it never came to that decision and I think it was due to me and following orders of my doctors that it didn't.

But it was certainly something we were told to consider because if this went wrong or that went wrong, it could have caused many different scenarios.

 

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Permalink Reply by Blondin on January 20, 2012 at 4:40pm

Your story brought a tear to my eye, Jennifer. Thanks for relating it.

I don't know any person or group that is advocating on-demand 3rd trimester abortions for non-medical reasons. When it becomes a question of risking the mother's life that must be a decision made by the mother herself. An analogy that I saw once that really brought this home to me was that of an organ donation. Suppose your child needed a vital organ and the only donor who could be found in time to save their life was the child's mother. Would it be fair if the law said the mother has no choice in the matter and must give up her life in order to save the child?

I'm glad it didn't come to that for you but I think your decision was the right one.

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Permalink Reply by T A A on January 20, 2012 at 7:40pm

Debates on late abortions are strictly a consequence of pro-lifers making a dent in abortion access... A first dent, leading to a second, a third, etc, until access to abortion is once again eroded. We are already on this path.

All abortions need to be at the request of the mother, no other being has any right deciding. A foetus is born when it is damn ready to be born, through various biochemical readiness signals, such as surfactant formation in the lungs.

No date before natural birth date, 9 months, give or take a week, is of any relevance. Premies are long term problems, their average health is lower than the rest of the population. Biologically viable and laboratory viable are two different ideas.

A woman's body does not suddenly not become her own to manage just because a foetus has become survivable by doctors. Anyone advocating against late term pregnancies should be forced to themselves rear those babies born under duress.

Permalink Reply by Eric Turnbull on July 20, 2012 at 3:00pm

Thank you for that story Jennifer.  Sorry for your loss.  A note on the second to last paragraph, there are many people who would say you were or would have been selfish no matter which path you chose.  In the end, when it's your life or the life of your unborn child in the balance, that is your choice to make, and no one should be able to judge you on that.

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