While on another forum an issue came to my mind that I was hoping someone might have some relevant data on, as currently I have 3 mainly unconfirmed sources regarding it.
If a person is bisexual in their early adulthood, it it common for that person to drift further towards desiring the same gender later in life?
I know of 3 cases where women who were purportedly bisexual early in life became more and more attracted to women in their later lives, at least one apparently becoming completely lesbian eventually.
While 3 possibly somewhat anecdotal sources of partial data are hardly enough to draw any conclusions from they were enough to pique my curiosity and to ask if there was any other data on the issue of bisexuals becoming more attracted to one gender as they aged.
I posted this here on the theory that it's at least a partially scientific question since I assume most people here accept orientation as a matter of neurological origin. I was hoping someone here might know if my question had been answered in some scientific study I was unaware of.
Well, let's see how long this post stays up...
Not really sure I agree, hopefully we'll get to the point where we can see for ourselves whether or not it's true, because children won't be nudged one way or the other.
Not in our lifetimes, most likely.
This topic reminded me that I've been meaning to go back and read this article:
Lisa M. Diamond
University of Utah
Though it's bad form, I'm going to jump to the conclusion for now just because it is salient with regard to this thread.
The findings of this research suggest that there are, in fact,appreciable boundaries between the long-term developmental tra-jectories of lesbian, bisexual, and unlabeled women, but theseboundaries are relatively fluid. Hence, the present study supportsthe notion of bisexuality as a third type of sexual orientation and also supports the notion of bisexuality as a capacity for context-specific flexibility in erotic response. In contrast, the findings are inconsistent with the long-debated notion of bisexuality as a tran-sitional stage or “phase.” Of course, this study is limited by its reliance on a small, exclusively female, disproportionately white and middle-class sample, and future research on larger and morediverse samples of sexual-minority women and men is important for determining the generalizability of the findings. Nonetheless,the results have important social and scientific implications. They contribute to researchers’ emerging scientific understanding of the basic nature and longitudinal development of female sexual ori-entation, and they provide critically important information foreducators and clinicians attempting to understand the distinctchallenges and meet the unique needs of bisexual individuals over the life course.
From what I've read female sexuality in particular tends to be a bit more fluid than men's. And bisexuality isn't 50/50. The percentages vary from people to people and, as you said, it's common for them to change throughout life.
There are also people who are technically bisexual, but identify as either straight or gay for various reasons. Biphobia is real and, weirdly, they get shit from both sides. Some doubt bisexuality even exists. Some think it's just a phase or that people can't make up their minds. When they are in an opposite-sex relationship they are seen as straight. When they are in same-sex relationship, they're gay. So for someone on the extreme end of the spectrum it can make sense to just say that the are straight or gay.
Which is somewhat true for me I suppose. I'm like 95+% straight and can't see myself in an actual relationship with a guy, so I might as well say I'm straight.